Blissfully Informed Hippie Chick

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This is the Real Life, a Clean House is Fantasy…

on April 16, 2015

You and I are guilty of a very damaging trend. It is undermining our sense of self-worth and distorting the very reality of having children. What is this trend? Simply taking pictures that have been cleverly angled or creatively cropped so as not to expose the monster we have all become afraid of: our mess. Admit it, you do this. You’re afraid of what people might think, or maybe the mess disgusts you. For whatever reason, you’re not showing it to the world. You’re parading your cookie-cutter, picture-perfect fabrication. I know this, because I used to do it, too. But it’s making us all crazy. Because the reality is, having kids is messy. Life is messy. If you and your kids are free to truly live in your home, and you don’t hire a maid, your house is teetering on the edge of disaster on a daily basis! Let’s face it, your house looks something like this right now:




And this is after I’ve been cleaning this morning!

At first glance, you might point out the bits of trash, toys everywhere, clothes strewn, and household items seemingly out of place. But let’s look a little bit closer, shall we?

The dining room chair is by the window because my toddler likes to watch out the window while I take the dogs out to pee every morning. Simply placing a chair there keeps her out of trouble during the 2 minutes I’m outside, and prevents her from climbing on top of something else much more dangerous.

The toys and books are strewn about because my kids are free to creatively use all their things together; such as stacking board books on blocks, creating musical instruments, and brushing the teddy bear’s fur.

The Easter basket and eggs are providing entertainment long after the holiday ended. (And considering I got them all at a thrift store, I’d say I’m definitely getting the better end of the deal!)

The dog leashes get hung back up after every use, but my toddler likes to walk the dogs around the house. And walk me and her big sisters around like dogs. And be walked like a dog.

The ice bucket provided quick and easy entertainment for my baby one evening as I was busy in the kitchen, and it has since been used as a drum, a doll bed, and an Easter egg receptacle, among other things.

The clothes are strewn about because my toddler is learning to dress herself. And undress herself. And dress herself. And undress herself. You get the idea.

The measuring cup is there for much the same reason as the ice bucket.

The vacuum is sitting in front of the closet that it belongs in because, let’s face it, it will be used again so soon that what’s the point? Besides, it seems to be particularly interesting to my 8 month old who is currently in the throes of separation anxiety. If a vacuum being left out provides me the opportunity to pee without him screeching, crawling after me, and pulling up on the side of the toilet as I sit there, then that vacuum will stay out forever! 

Now, the crayons and toys that are encroaching on my kitchen, that’s where I draw the line. Any mom will tell you that there’s nothing more dangerous than children’s toys underfoot while you’re trying to cook! Admittedly, I usually don’t pick them up, though. I simply kick them back into the living room as I’m sweeping the floor for the millionth time that day.

If you’re sitting there, looking around your house, crying because your house looks much worse than this…please don’t feel bad! I’ll point out again, this is after doing much cleaning this morning! Perhaps in a future post I’ll take you in my kitchen. As long as you don’t call the EPA on me 😉


13 responses to “This is the Real Life, a Clean House is Fantasy…

  1. I once dated a guy who upon the great time seeing his place said, “I won’t say excuse the mess, because it always looks like this.” Cleaning with kids who come behind you and mess up everything you do is stressful. I’m guilty of posting pictures of my clean house, it actually does looks like that 99% of the time, but that’s only because my husband is a neat freak and I clean out about three times a day. If it were up to me, my house would look lived in all the time.

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    • Not sure the ages of your kiddos, but mine are nearly 11 and 9, 20 months, and 8 months. I homeschool, so they’re here pretty much all the time! And my husband is a trucker, always on the road. Chaos and mess is a part of my life lol I clean constantly during the day, but pretty much as soon as I’m done, or while I’m cleaning, there’s a tornado behind me!

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      • Mine are 14, 9, and almost 3 so quite a bit easier to keep things clean. My house def gets messier quicker when all my kids are home. I also love in a really small apartment, so there’s not much to clean.


      • Ah, yes, we recently moved into a large house, about 2700 sq feet. I try to contain the kids to the main living areas, but it doesn’t always work lol plus, I cook at least twice a day. We have some diet restrictions, so cooking from scratch is a necessity. While I love that it’s healthier, it does require that the kitchen be constantly cleaned! Plus baby led weaning and free range kids (no playpen or anything to confine them, child proofing means moving dangerous stuff out of their reach)… makes for a lot more messes made, but a lot more learning happening =)

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      • Sounds like you have a house full of fun. We’re looking for a house now, when we find one, my niece will also live with us. Time will tell if I can keep the clean with an extra (messy) kid, and a house with actual space.

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      • At the moment, my toddler is getting cleaned up by her big sister, after eating peanut butter out of the jar while sitting on the table. It was one of those “why not?” moments. Most people think I’m crazy, but it works for us!

        We will probably have more children, so this house is a great size for us =)

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      • That’s awesome! I’m not a free range parent by any stretch, but I’ve been criticised for my choices with my toddler who makes his own sleep schedule and has been eating “like a man” since he got his first tooth. I actually had a stranger tell me he wasn’t supposed to eat human food so early. I’m pretty sure he was a human, even before he could walk. Every parent has to do what works for them.

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      • Lol that’s a good one, “human food”! My first 2 kids were parented much differently, much more “by the book”. My husband and I have done a lot more reading and research since then, coupled with personal experience, and have just naturally come to this conclusion. It definitely works for us, but I can see how our wouldn’t for others =)

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  2. The mess can grow so incredibly overwhelming! Particularly when one is in a nesting state. I’m hoping after having this baby the toddler (and man child) mess will not stress me so incredibly much.


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