Blissfully Informed Hippie Chick

Encouraging people to think critically about everything.

Resolutions…

I dislike them.

Many years of unexpected changes have taught me that a year is a lot of opportunities for things to go “not as planned”. I know that, in a year, I’ll be changed. My goal is more mindfulness of each moment instead of living with my eyes set on some distant “prize”.

Mindfulness is a state of active, open attention on the present. When you’re mindful, you observe your thoughts and feelings from a distance, without judging them good or bad. Instead of letting your life pass you by, mindfulness means living in the moment and awakening to experience.

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Here’s the real story behind the well-documented failure of New Year’s resolutions: We don’t develop self-destructive behaviors because we’re weak, or because “they just became a habit,” or because everyone around us was doing them, or because of our neurobiology or heredity. The meaning of these behaviors is unconscious and we develop them because they serve unconscious beliefs and needs. These beliefs and needs are important, albeit unconscious, building blocks of our identities. They provide a sense of unconscious safety, and changing them is unconsciously experienced as dangerous.

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Many of us face memories of our past that we may regret. We are human and humans are fallible. Personal intelligence allows us to see ourselves and others with greater fidelity—and this fidelity includes an understanding of our own fallibility. Seeing ourselves clearly isn’t always easy. Information about who we are is “hot” and emotionally charged—that heat can warm or scald us. We may focus on a personal flaw so much that we lose perspective on the broader contours of life. It’s easy to turn away at times, and indeed, we all do. Yet if we work over time to learn a bit more about ourselves we may become more accurate at self-understanding and this, in turn, can help us change for the better. Because although many aspects of our personalities persist over time, there is also opportunity for change.

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If you’re going to resolve to do anything this year, resolve to know yourself more fully and be present in whatever situation you find yourself. Those are the two greatest opportunities for growth and change.

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Time Well-Spent

I was beginning to get very frustrated a little while ago. I haven’t written a blog in a good while and I have so many drafts saved that I really wanted to get something written today. I began yet another entry and got to the second paragraph and was interrupted by my toddlers fighting over blocks. I set my phone down to go intervene and found myself losing my temper when the littlest one just wouldn’t stop pestering his sister.

And then it hit me.

My blog was the distraction, not my children. My desire to write was getting in the way of giving my children the guidance they require so frequently nowadays. It was easier when the youngest was a baby. He slept more, he sat happily playing in one spot. He rode in the carrier on my chest, just happy with my closeness. But he’s not a baby anymore, he’s a full-blown toddler. And he has a sister not much older than he. Conflict is inevitable. They are two toddlers with still-developing interpersonal relationship skills. They love each other, they want to play together, but they need guidance…a lot of it.

I chose these children. I didn’t exactly choose the timing… but when does our timing ever work as we want it to? The fact is that they are here in my life now, and they need me. They will be grown before I know it, and I will have countless hours to write down the thoughts that swirl in my head. For now, they are little. They are learning. They need a guide, and that guide is me.

Every time you wonder what I’m up to and don’t see any new posts from me, you can be sure that I am spending that time with my children and husband. I’ll be back… eventually.

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What is joy?

A toddler’s exuberance for the little things, like brushing his teeth.

Hot coffee.

A warm house.

Fleece turtleneck sweaters.

A Christmas tree, decorated haphazardly by my 4 children.

A two-year-old’s face, painted with mud.

Chocolate peanut butter chip cookies made by my big girls, who are growing up so quickly.

A husband who wants nothing more than to give us our heart’s desires.

Snuggling up on the couch to watch a show on a laptop that has lost half it’s keys to the chubby hands of curious toddlers.

An old upright piano to play Christmas carols on.

A long-standing inside joke with an old friend.

A full pantry.

A kiss goodnight from the man I love.

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There is joy all around us. Sometimes, it’s hard to see in the chaos of life. Get up early one morning. Look around in the quiet stillness. See past the un-vacuumed floor and toys strewn about. Look past the sink full of dirty dishes and pile of clean laundry. See the beauty. See the laughter. Count your blessings. And then smile. That is joy.

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The psychiatric matrix creates the politically correct victim

“Psychiatry seeks to gain control and domination over the entire area of human behavior, through classification by labels and bogus claims of diagnosis.

Here is the kicker: There are no definitive chemical or biological tests for any so-called mental disorder.

This fact is stunning to people. They automatically assume psychiatry is a science. It isn’t. It’s a shell game.

I refer now to the PBS FRONTLINE presentation, “Does ADHD Exist?” A quite revealing exchange occurs between the interviewer and Dr. Russell Barkley, professor of psychiatry and neurology at the University of Massachusetts Medical Center.

INTERVIEWER: Skeptics say that there’s no biological marker—that it [ADHD] is the one condition out there where there is no blood test, and that no one knows what causes it.

BARKLEY: That’s tremendously naïve, and it shows a great deal of illiteracy about science and about the mental health professions. A disorder doesn’t have to have a blood test to be valid. If that were the case, all mental disorders would be invalid…There is no lab test for any mental disorder right now in our science. That doesn’t make them invalid.

Yes, that does make them invalid. All of them.

Of course, if you want to make science into guesswork and empty promises and speculation and tea-leaf reading, have at it. Privately, and preferably on a desert island.

Go to a library and pick up the DSM-V. Search through it for one defining laboratory test for any mental disorder. See for yourself. There isn’t any such test.

Yet, on this unscientific basis, psychiatry and its allies have managed to transform society. They’ve staged an extraordinarily successful revolution over the past 50 years.

And now, on several branches of that tree, we are seeing the poisonous fruition of a cultural correctness that seeks to encircle freedom.”

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The psychiatric matrix creates the politically correct victim

by Jon Rappoport

December 4, 2015

(To read about Jon’s mega-collection, Power Outside The Matrix, click here.)

“Individual [Harvard law] students often ask teachers not to include the law of rape on exams for fear that the material would cause them to perform less well. One teacher I know was recently asked by a student not to use the word “violate” in class—as in “Does this conduct violate the law?”—because the word was triggering. Some students have even suggested that rape law should not be taught because of its potential to cause distress.” (Jeannie Suk, The New Yorker, 12/15/14)

“When you have medical services at colleges all over the country making psychiatric diagnoses and dispensing drugs, day in and day out, what do you suppose is going to happen to those students? They’re going to wear their mental-disorder labels like…

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How scared should we be?

I value knowledge. I don’t appreciate fear-mongering memes that attempt to make people believe that they are at risk of something terrible, without providing any evidence to back up this claim. When I see memes like this one (I won’t call it an infographic, because it’s not), I feel compelled to do the research necessary to support or refute the claims made:

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The text accompanying this meme states:

Be careful with those little baby joints… Pediatricians who volunteer time in responding to questions for peaceful parenting have let us know that ‘swinging’ by well meaning adults is one of the most common ways for babies and children to suffer from dislocated joints and joint problems. Babies and children should not be swung, lifted or picked up by their arms.

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This type of elbow dislocation is called “nursemaid’s elbow”, because it was often seen in children being yanked about by their nursemaid (a.k.a. nanny).
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The elbow has a ligament called the annular ligament. Its job is to keep the two bones in your forearm in the correct position around the elbow. When a child’s arm is pulled, the bone around the elbow can slip out of position. This most often occurs in children ages one to four. As you age the ligament strengthens making it less likely for the bone to slip out of place.

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Here is what I found, after wading through similar scare tactics on popular health information websites:

The most common cause of nursemaid’s elbow is being grabbed or jerked by the arm, especially if these are done violently.

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There is a slight risk of this occurring due to swinging your child by the wrists. However, the only source of information regarding the cause of this particular dislocation is most likely the person who perpetrated the injury. How many parents or caretakers claim they were swinging the child in play, when they actually yanked the child out of frustration or anger? At any rate, the risk is negligible.

The largest study of it’s kind found that, at one hospital, out of 240,000 pediatric patients (30,000 patients per year over the course of 8 years), 1,228 children presented with a dislocated elbow. That’s .5% of patients, for anyone interested in the actual prevalence of this occurring. Also, this study found a correlation between the child’s weight and the dislocations. The authors posit that childhood obesity increases the risk of this injury occurring. 27% of the children in the study were over the 95th percentile for weight. The study can be found here.

I like risk assessment. I like statistics. I like informed choices. Given the incredibly small chance of elbow dislocation during innocuous playful interaction with my children via swinging or other physical play, I think I’ll take my chances.

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Why not?

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I’ve reached the point where I say “why not?” to things like a toddler’s request to drink apple cider from a (clean) sour cream container instead of a cup. Because, why not? And yes, he’s wearing his sister’s shirt… and sleeper…because, why not?

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Kids don’t like to be told “no”… who does? Just because he’s been on this earth less than 2 years doesn’t mean his thoughts and feelings, wants and needs, are any less important and real than mine. Toddlers’ desires might seem odd to us. After all, they’re trying to figure out this crazy world we live in with all it’s rules, like gravity. On top of that, they have to learn all our social customs as well…like how we drink from cups and store food in containers. If we want to raise clones or drones, we will say, “No, you can’t drink out of the container, you must drink from a cup!” If we want to raise creative thinkers and innovators, we will say, “Why not?”

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